The Untold Secret to Expanding Your Capacity to Receive More Money
Expansion always happens at the edge
I have a confession to make…
Making big payments scare me.
But in the past 5 years I learned that the secret to making more money was to make scary moves. This is because those moves expand your capacity to receive more money.
So when I made my biggest investment for a coaching programme the other week, I realized the power of leaning into your edge in your journey to abundance.
Here are some things you’re expected to learn at the end of this newsletter:
What it means to lean into your edge and why it’s crucial to expand your capacity to receive and hold more money
Simple exercises to help you lean into your edge and expand your financial capacity even if you’re broke
What to do to continue to lean into your edge even if you’re scared
But in return my challenge to you is to take a screenshot of the part of this newsletter that you found insightful and tag me @mary_imasuen (on Twitter or Instagram) with the hashtag #RelishAbundance.
Deal?
For those reading my newsletter for the first time, I’m Mary Victoria and before diving into the world of personal finance, I not only had to fix my money habits, I also had to learn how to fix my money mindset.
I spoke about my money habits in my last newsletter. You can click here if you’ve not read it to catch up.
One of my favourite money coaches, Genevieve Rachkam, has been an amazing resource for the past 5 years. It was from her I learned the concept of leaning into your edge.
Genevieve continuously challenges herself to lean into her edge. This was how she was able to make multiple 6-figures in dollars.
She is a living example of how expanding your capacity to receive more money is a by-product of leaning into your edge.
But what does it mean to “lean into your edge”?
Leaning into your edge is a simple concept. It’s all about you taking a step out of your comfort zone.
Imagine you’re going parachuting. 🪂
You will not be able to experience the thrills of gliding through the air in your parachute unless you take a step out of the plane.
You might be able to feel the adrenaline rush while standing on the edge of the entrance of the plane. But if you don’t lean over the edge and jump out of the plane, you’ll only dream of parachuting but never experience it.
When put in the context of abundance, leaning into your edge is going out of your comfort zone to do something to experience abundance.
But more often than not doing those things are scary, even though you know that they will improve your life financially.
And it’s normal.
Fear doesn’t mean something is wrong, it means that you’ve never done it before.
How does leaning into your edge expand your capacity to earn more?
Let’s go back to the parachute example.
If you’re parachuting for the first time, you’re going to be afraid. Crazy thoughts would rush to your mind like:
“You’re insane”
“What if you die?”
“What if you won’t be able to do it properly or something goes wrong?”
But the minute you jump out of the plane, you’ll realized that it wasn’t as bad as you thought and that you were more than capable of handling it. Another plus, is that you end up enjoying the experience.
The next time you go parachuting you wouldn’t be as terrified as you were when you first started. And the more you keep parachuting, jumping out of the plane would be so easy for you.
You’ll go from being worried about jumping off the plane and begin to start experiencing the splendor of being in the air and looking at the beauty that lies below.
In other words, you expanded your capacity to enjoy the full experience of parachuting.
It’s the same with leaning into your edge to embody abundance.
Prior to the time I hired my first coach, I always wanted to have a coach. I knew that I would learn a lot through coaching and get the accountability I needed to stay consistent. But investing in coaching was way over my budget at the time.
So the first stage of leaning into my edge was talking to coaches online. I spoke to so many coaches for years. I hopped on free discovery calls, followed their content, asked questions in the comments and even offered to be a beta tester for their coaching programmes. Every time I was on a call or I engaged with a coach, I allowed myself to feel as if I had hired them.
My first call with a coach was scary. My fear soon turned to shame when they pitched their programme at the end of the call because I couldn’t afford their programme.
But the more I spoke to coaches, I increased my capacity to hire a coach of my own. And as a birthday gift I hired my first coach and paid in full. As for my second coach, I paid almost double what I paid the first.
And I must say that I wasn’t as scared of hiring the second as I was for the first.
Leaning into your edge normalizes abundance in your mind.
What this does is to subconsciously tell you that you have what it takes to handle such abundance. The more you’re able to handle such abundance, the more you start to find yourself coming across opportunities that will lead you to more money.
How does the money show up?
When you say you want money, it’s not actually the cash you’re after. It’s the experience that money gives you that you’re after.
You want the security, the confidence, the freedom, the options money gives.
When it comes to attracting money, people usually do it backwards.
They run after the money to get the experiences money gives. But that method is tough and more often than not a fruitless exercise.
Money is only attracted to you when you start experiencing the security, the confidence, the freedom, the options before having the money. The truth is that money is not the only source of those experiences.
My father always says “When you chase money, just like a rat money runs away from you. You have to pet money before it comes to you.”
So each time you’re leaning into your edge, you’re giving yourself the chance to experience those feelings first. That’s what draws money to you. That’s what brings about the opportunities to receive more money.
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How to lean into your edge if you’re broke
Up until this point, you probably think that leaning into your edge requires you to have money. And that’s far from the truth.
Back when I was working on improving my money habits, I didn’t have much money to play around with.
So most of the time leaning into my edge was made of me:
walking through the market and asking the price of items as if I had money to buy them
sitting down at a hotel lobby soaking in the luxury whenever I was sent to represent my former workplace at events
confidently depositing N1000 at my bank as if I was depositing a million naira cheque
ordering for a N500 piña colada flavoured yogurt from Pinkberry imagining I’m treating myself to something very fancy
Doing those things weren’t easy and I was scared just thinking of doing them. But as I leaned into them, I realized that it wasn’t as bad as I thought. The more I leaned in, the more it felt normal to think and live abundant.
And that’s the key: for acts of abundance to feel normal. That is what’s helps you increase your capacity to receive more.
So in my case
walking through the market as if I had money to buy whatever I wanted, made me feel confident that I have options
sitting down at the lobby of a luxurious hotel and made it feel that I could be a part of that luxury
confidently depositing N1000 in my account made me feel a semblance of financial freedom and ability to handle my own money
ordering my N500 piña colada flavoured yogurt made me feel abundant enough to treat myself to something special
And it was only a matter of time when my income caught up with the abundance that I was already experiencing.
So will you lean into edge or will you back out?
Your edge could be anything:
sending that pitch
starting that business
creating that course
trusting yourself that you can be responsible enough to improve your personal finance
going to that event
And it’s normal to be afraid when you’re taking that unfamiliar step. But your abundant life is right across the bridge of your comfort zone.
So do those little things that make you feel abundant even if it’s ordering N500 piña colada flavoured yogurt.
Or walking through boutiques as if you have all the money in the world to buy whatever you want.
Or sitting in the lobby of luxurious hotel, even if it’s only for 10 minutes.
Lean into that edge and allow the money to match your experience of abundance
Keep shining,
Mary Victoria 💋
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